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Repeating a Grade: The Pros and Cons
Grade retention or social promotion — which is best? Read what the experts have to say.
Has anyone at school talked to you about retaining your child in the same grade? Have you been thinking about whether your child should be promoted on to the next grade level?
Reasons for Retention Grade retention is a very difficult and emotionally charged decision. It may be considered when a child:
  • Has significant struggles making progress in reading, writing or math
  • Fails to reach performance levels expected for promotion to the next grade
  • Appears to be "immature" and "young" for her age
In many schools today, tests are being used to determine whether a child will go on to the next grade or repeat the same grade. With the current push for high educational standards, more and more kids are facing the possibility of retention because they're not achieving test scores required for promotion. Retention is viewed as a way to ensure greater accountability — to guarantee the school is doing its job. In some cases, it's the new "get tough" policy to stop or reduce "social promotion" — automatically passing a child on to the next grade at the end of each school year.
Outcomes of Retention The idea of giving a child another year to "catch-up" and develop needed skills sounds like a positive alternative. However, research shows that outcomes for kids who are retained generally are not positive.
In its 2003 "Position Statement on Student Grade Retention," the National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) reports:
  • Academic achievement of kids who are retained is poorer than that of peers who are promoted.
  • Achievement gains associated with retention fade within two to three years after the grade repeated.
  • Kids who are identified as most behind are the ones "most likely harmed by retention."
  • Retention often is associated with increased behavior problems.
  • Grade retention has a negative impact on all areas of a child's achievement (reading, math, and language) and socio-emotional adjustment (peer relationships, self-esteem, problem behaviors and attendance).
  • Students who are retained are more likely to drop out of school compared to students who were never retained. In fact, grade retention is one of the most powerful predictors of high school dropout.
  • Retained students are more likely to have poorer educational and employment outcomes during late adolescence and early adulthood.
  • Retention is more likely to have benign or positive impact when students are not simply held back, but receive specific remediation to address skill and/or behavioral problems and promote achievement and social skills.
Kids with Learning Disabilities Many kids with learning disabilities (LD) really struggle when taking district-adopted and state-adopted achievement tests. These tests require students to:
  • Concentrate for long periods of time
  • Work independently
  • Persevere when faced with material they struggle to read and understand
  • Record their answers using "bubble sheets"
  • Work within specific time limits
Test results may not show what your child actually knows and can do. Instead, they may tell you how well she does on this type of test. When test scores are used as the only basis for whether a child will be promoted to the next grade, kids with LD can be at a great disadvantage.
Factors to Consider So, the big question is how you decide if retention is right for your child. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Academic
  • In what area(s) is your child struggling the most — reading, writing, math, science, social studies, social skills or others? Is it just one subject or most of them?
  • What have you and the teachers done this year to help your child develop necessary skills?
  • What has worked and helped your child learn? What hasn't worked this year?
  • If your child were to spend another year in the same grade, what type of instruction would she receive in the areas she finds most difficult? Would a new teaching approach or new materials be used, or would the teacher do the same thing as last year? How do you know that "doing it over again" would make a difference?
  • What level of performance would you set for your child to achieve if she were retained? What changes would you need to see to be satisfied that retention was effective?
  • Realistically, will your child be able to meet the required standards to be promoted next year? What kind of change are you expecting in one year? Is that enough to make the retention worthwhile?
Social/Emotional
  • Is behavior a concern?
  • How will your child feel about being retained? Will she be more motivated to learn and try, or will she be embarrassed and further withdraw from learning?
  • What will happen to your child's peer supports and friendships? How will they be affected by retention?
Alternatives to Retention The National Association of School Psychologists favors "promotion plus" interventions designed to address the specific factors that place students at risk for school failure. With that in mind, here are questions to ask yourself about alternatives to grade retention:
  • Have you worked with your child's teacher to identify accommodations that could increase her success in the classroom? If interventions are working, will they be continued?
  • Is your child receiving extra support? Does she get one-on-one or small group help to understand new ideas and complete work?
  • If your child receives special education services, are her IEP goals and objectives/benchmarks related to the standards established by the school? If not, the IEP Team may need to revise them to focus on outcomes leading to promotion to the next grade.
  • What type of curriculum materials and instructional strategies does the teacher use? How effective are they with your child?
  • Could your child benefit from one-on-one tutoring or counseling?
  • Are options such summer school, extended day or extended year available?
  • Does your child resist your help with schoolwork? If so, find alternatives — have a sister or brother help with homework, get help from a high school or college student.
  • Does your child participate in the school's homework club or other school programs that provide support?
  • Would your child's participation in extracurricular activities, such as soccer, dance, scouts or choir, help her make friends and become more motivated to do better in school?
The Big Picture Before retaining your child, carefully consider your responses to the above questions. Read some of the literature on retention, and talk with your child and other family members. Speak to the teacher and other school staff who know your child. Talk to the principal about state law and district policy on retention to discover who makes the final decision and what the appeal process is. If your child receives special education services, be sure the IEP team is involved.
Whatever is decided, carefully monitor your child's academic and behavioral performance during the next year. Be sure to work closely with her teachers to ensure that you and the school are giving her the support she needs.
Updated April 2008

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06/16/2008:
"I have 6 year old twin girls, Twin 1 is right at level (according to the DRA scores) and Twin 2 slightly below level. The teacher of the one below level wants to retain her and I am totally against it! When we met in March, I requested that that Twin 2 get extra help. Her teacher stated that she would personally help Twin 2 and that addtional help wasnt necessary. She informed me that Twin 2 was improving and 'should be' at level by years end, no problem. A few weeks later that teacher was put on bedrest and a substitute came in. Based on the improvement I was seeing at home everything seemed to be going well. Then Friday, which was the last day of school I get reports cards. Twin 1 promoted to 2nd grade, Twin 2 not! I was SHOCKED! I got no warning. Twin 2 didnt even know and she cried the entire weekend. They are both going to summer school and I've contacted both Kumon & Sylvan for tutors. I do not want to allow them to hold Twin 2 back for 2 main reasons, 1. she has impro! ved at a rapid pace over the last 3 months & 2. her self-esteem. The way she cried when she found out was devestaing to me. Being a twin and not in the same grade as her sister would just shatter her self-confidence. I actually think it would do more harm than good to keep her back. What do you all think?"
06/2/2008:
"I am a school corporation administrator. I have seen both the positives and the negatives of retention. Children grow, mature and learn at different rates. There is no one answer to what is best. School administrators need to take a look at each child as an individual and consider the circumstances that a child may be dealing with. If there are personal isues that the child is struggling with take that into consideration. Often children may be experiencing personal difficulties that the teacher may not be aware of. It is time to realize that not all children do the same things at the same times and realize that there may be a few years that students are working at different paces and levels. My experience in education and the research support the idea that students will level out, the majority. Retention is a plausible answer when all factors and options have been considered and tried. It is not the first answer, it should be the last. School teachers and administrators know! before the end of a school year whether or not a child is struggling-or they should know. As a parent the first question shoud be what has been to to assist the child. The second should be what else can WE do. The parent should be involved from the first thought that retention might be necessary. Parents, teachers and administrators need to work together to meet the needs of children, that is why we are all here. Retention should not be used as a threat for then it becoes a punishment for not performing up to someone standards. The question is whether or not the child is able to perform. Yes, even preschool and kindergarten have some academic expectations, but just maybe we expect too much from chilkdren thatare developing and growing at different rates. There is no right or wrong answer that can apply to all. Each child is individual with individual needs to be met. Age, academics, behavior are all just factors of the bigger picture. Work together and make an informed de! cision...after trying interventions. If retention is the answe! r, then work with the child to help rebuild the lost self esteem that may result. Work with the child and the parents to look at alternateives for catching the child up academically to the right grade if it is based upon maturity and development. There are options, and kids are why we are here, be a functional team of decision makers. This is not about educators versus parents...that makes the educators and parents as immature as the children they are discussing. If we put the child in the center of all decisions made, then the right decisions result."
06/2/2008:
"My son is in the 8th grade, I wanted him retained and it's not that he has low scores on tests he is lazy hands work in and loses the crdit because it was not handed in on time. studies here and there. I have had hin in Slyvan he is still behind and gosh they are very high ! so what can I do ???"
05/5/2008:
"RETENTION IS UP TO PARENTS, STUDENT, AND SCHOOL (INCL. COUNSELOR) TOGETHER; THE 3 SHOULD SAT DOWN DESPITE AMOUNT OF TIME NEEDED TO GO OVER PROS AND CONS. IF THE CHILD IS NOT ACADEMICALLY PREPARED, MEANING 'FAILED EVERYTHING', 4-6WKS. OR MORE OUT 0F THE 6-6WKS., THEN HE OR SHE SHOULD BE HELD BACK OR SUMMER SCHOOLED. BEHAVIOR SHOULD NOT EVEN PLAY A ROLE IN RETENTION; IT'S OBSURED! STATISTICALLY SPEAKING AND FROM PERSONAL PARENT KNOWLEDGE, BEHAVIOR COMES WITH AGE AND TEACHERS AND PARENTS NEED TO COME UP WITH IDEAS TO CONTROL THIS PROBLEM. MY SON'S K TEACHER, PRINCIPAL, AND 1ST GRADE TEACHER WORKED WITH US CONCERNING BEHAVIOR AND THEY WILL ALWAYS BE DEAR TO OURS HEARTS; AND MY CHILD TALKS ABOUT THEM NONE STOP!! THANK GOD!!!!!"
05/1/2008:
"We decided my son was not ready for kindergartern so we kept him in pre K an extra year. His birthday is Sept 2 1999. He went to Pre K at 2 diffrent schools. Both were highly qualified programs. He began Kindergarten when he was 6. Now he is in the 2 nd grade and his grades are not good. His teachers have been working very hard all year to help him. J|He has made a numerous amount of progress. But, he has to stay another year in 2nd grade. Now we are looking at 19 years old graduating from high school. Today my husband and I have to tell him he did not pass his placement test. I wish there was something that could have been done in 1st grade. He lost a huge foundation in 1st grade. I new after 3 weeks of school my son and his teacher's personalities were not going to click. Needles to say they just passed him. He is not a strong reader and now we are playing catch up. He is a very intellegent child! I just hope and pray for the best. "
04/30/2008:
"Our seven year old grandson was retained in kindergarten. He and his sister are in the same first grade class in a very small rural school. His sister excels in all academic areas. He continues to have difficulty with reading, and is imature for his age. The teacher is suggesting that he be retained once again. The school does not offer special education classes or one on one services. His mother tries to work with him without distractions and he refuses to stay on task. I agree that another retention for him is probably not the answer for his learning difficulties. I will share your article regarding retention with our grandson's parents . We want them to beable to make the best decision for him and find possible options other than retention. Thank you for addressing this issue. "
04/28/2008:
"Thank you for this informative email. We retained our first child in another state and he's doing much better. He says that he wished he would be in a higher grade next year, but... he would also like to have the grades he has now. The year we kept him back wasn't a big success, but this present year he's much more responsible and his grades are the best they've been in years. His brother is now going through the same things. He doesn't want to do his work, but.... everyone envolved knows he's very capable. So... what to do?"
04/22/2008:
"I am so happy for this information. I never was a believer that kids should repeat grades. I feel that once a child starts having difficulties in a certain area, it is the child's teacher and the parent need to work together to help the child improve. I know in my district they are starting to have conversations about possibly having children repeat grades. This should not be the first course of action by any means. The idea of being left back is demoralizing for kids. It is a stigma that is hard to shake. If discussions are starting to happen where it may be a possibility that a child may need to repeat a grade, it should be agreed upon by an informed parent and the district. Repeating a grade should be the last resort. I for one would not favor this being common practice. I believe this is a reflection of the the teachers and the school administration."
04/22/2008:
"I really am glad to see this article. I agree one hundred percent as an educator and a mom that retention is most likely not the right thing to do. I do believe that education has changed drastically and based on these changes we truly need to differentiate the educational process for each individual child. And we definately need to look at alternative methods of intervention such as literacy teachers, math coaches, and writing coaches working one on one with those students who is in need. Recognize however that this means more money. Retention may just mean repeating if nothing is actually put in place to develop needed outcomes for the student."
04/21/2008:
" As a kindergarten teacher I feel that if a child is struggling academically he/she would greatly benefit from another year in K. If it is socially I would recommend sending them to first. As a child gets older some of the points that were brought up in retention and drop-outs makes sense and that is why it is better to catch them early. I did like the information that was in teh article. Thanks for theinfo."
04/21/2008:
"I'm so glad to hear what was just said about grade retention. My daughter is in kindergarten and her teacher doesn't think she is ready for 1st grade, due to some low test grade scores. That weren't even that low. On all of her class work she does really good, but all those test for the 'no child left behind' is weighting on her. She tells me sometimes she gets tired and forgets. I think she is doing very well. She does her homework on her own without any problems or hesitation. I just think that she should not be retained, if she wasn't doing well I would get her tutoring not retain her. I don't think that is a good idea for kids that have really put forth an effort. My son struggled from k-3rd and his kindergarten teacher want to hold him back also and I said no. He is now in the 4th grade getting A's and B's he also scored advance in math on the state's Meap test. So thank you for this article it was really up lifting. "
04/18/2008:
"My son's birthday is in November so he started school at 4 instead of 5. Although he stands 6 feet tall he is an under acheiver who struggles with both reading and writing. He does however excellling in math. I have felt since 3rd grade that I put him in school to early. He is graduating 8th grade and I don't feel he is ready for highschool. We are relocating to another state. I think this would be a perfect time to right my wrong. I just don't know if it would improve his attitude toward school. My question is: Can you suggest a place for us to have an professional weigh all the fact and give us the pros and cons."
04/18/2008:
"I find it annoying that no article I have read about retention (and I read quite a few in 2004 when we were considering retaining our kindergartener), including this one, distinguishes between age groups. It's obvious that the social repercussions of being retained are going to be greater for a 7th grader than a kindergartener--but how much greater? It's obvious that once a child is older than 8 or 9, the issues involved are probably not 'developmental,' so retention after a certain age, without more, is going to be counterproductive. But are there 'true' developmental issues that a 4, 5 , or 6 year old may be having that is making it hard for her to read in kindergarten and for which retaining the child might be helpful in the long run? We did retain our child, he did much better the next year--was able to learn to read without all the torture that had occurred the year before--but even now in 3rd grade is ashamed that he is old for his grade and was 'held back.' I wil! l never know if we did the right thing, but this article does not help. Emily Rich"
04/18/2008:
"My 7 year old daughter is repeating 1st grade right now and it was the best decision we could have made for her.Last year she struggled with reading,writing,math,and social interaction.She hated going to school and would often fake sick so she could stay home,and come home from school.This year she is at the top of her class she has many friends,and loves to go to school!Her teachers last year were very supportive we had many specialists helping her.They had lots of meetings with us on what we think would work to help her learn and grow.And they always kept us well informed on progress.Her teachers never pushed us to retain her it was our decision and hers.And we are all very happy with the outcome!"
04/18/2008:
"I have to admit reading the article on repeating a grade made me feel sick to my stomache. My son was told that he would have to repeat Kindergarten because he can't read on his own. The teacher told me that socialy and emotionaly he was ready but academicaly he was not. I agree with his teacher. What child wants to sit in a classroom and fail at everything they do. I know first hand how it feels to sit in a classroom and not know what the teacher is talking about! I was suppose to repeat the fourth grade but for whatever reasons my parents were against it! The kids made fun of me and socially did not accept me. I had no friends it was awful. I am 30 years old now and I still remeber how it feels to be in a classroom where no one liked you. I think no child should be pushed into anything. If they are not ready they are not ready. They will learn a their own pace!!!!!"
04/18/2008:
"My son is in 7th grade, and I am considering keeping him back next year. He barely knows 6th grade math, how in the world can he learn 8th grade math next year? His 5th grade teacher told me he would be fine, when I told her I was concerned then, his counsler last year said to me 'You can't hold him back'. Now he is even further behind. What is worse holding a child back, or moving a child ahead and they can't pass the high school exit exam, get into a college, or a good job, because they have become frustrated because they don't understand the work. I do work with my son, he had a tutor. "
04/18/2008:
"I have a daughter that is in the 10th grade who refuses to go to school. She will show up for some classes a couple days out of the week. We have worked with the counselor at the school and have taken everything we possible can away from her but she has her heart set on not going to school. She has passed part of the exit exam for high schoolers and could have passed the entire thing if she would just go to school. She's playing this role right now and I feel retention will hold her accountable for her actions to show her you can't just not skate throught life. Yes education is stressed highly in the home we keep telling her get your education so that you may choose your job don't let you job choose you. When you have the education you know what you want to do and be able to fulfill that dream. Uneducated you are crying about the job you have and wishing you could have tried. Retention is a must."
04/18/2008:
"My now 8 y/o son attended a private school in our community in first grade. While he was A/B honor roll the entire school year, his teacher made a recommendation to have him repeat the grade based on the fact that his birthday was late August and that he wasn't as mature as his classmates who were 6 months to a year older than him. During the school year he had trouble with classwork completion, preference for playing in class etc. He was never in any fight provoked or othewise. To make a long story short, I had meetings after meetings with the school officials to no avail. The head master even told me that they could do whatever they want, they are private. I ended up transferring him to a catholic school. A recoomendation from the 1st grade teacher was required, in spite of the negative recommendation, my son was enrolled in 2nd grade with warnings that he would be closely 'watched'. Boy was he watched? Emotionally, it was a repeat of 1st grade. Academically successful ! but continued to play, being the class clown etc. He spent the year the threat that he would be held back based on immaturity. Again, he was being compared to his classmates who were 6 months to 1 1/2 year older than him. We started seeing cocial progress around March. Less playing, more work completion etc. He was promoted to 3rd grade. In 3rd grade this school year, he started out beautifully. One week I was given the high fives for getting him counseling, which I didn't mentionned earlier in this feedback, to being threatened with grade retention again the following week based on one incident that happened that week. That incident involved a tissue that my son flicked and the tissue falling on another little boy. The little boy was upset thinking that the tissue might have been used. This happened early November this school year. Again, to make a long story short, we went down hill from that point on. The threats of retention based on 'immaturity' began again. The princ! ipal clearly told me that my son would not be promoted to 3rd ! grade. The point of the matter is: What are the expectations when a child is retained? That he would mature up and catch up during that year? Who came up with that idea? Look at my son; if he was retained based on 'maturity' he would be in first grade for a long time. He is now 8 turning 9 in August, quite frankly, he would be 9 and still be in first grade although academically he is performing better of at the same level as his older classmates. In fact, I ended up transferring him to the public school system in the middle of this school year. He started the new school on 2/19, on 3/5 he had to take the State standardized test in reading. The child got a 98 on that test. He missed one question! Meanwhile everybody school officials are pushing to hold him back a grade, absolutely no interventions were put in place to help his behavior issues. I fought and fought trying to get school to use strategies to help. When they tried something that clearly worked, if there is another inc! ident one week into it, the threats started again. The truth is, school officials, don't have the patience to deal with our children. They want them to be perfect little angels and do everthing expected of them. The reality is children are born with their personnality that we as parents and educators can help shape to a certain extent, but it's a one size fits all type of deal. Children are different, and they have to be treated differently."
04/18/2008:
"A cursory examination of retention data in Louisiana seems to indicate that retention in the lower grades is not as harmful (less likely to complete) as retention in high school. Probably depends on the reason for the retention. Whether the reasons are academic, emotional, mental, or social and if appropriate interventions are applied will determine success. "
04/18/2008:
"I have twin boys now in six grade. They are identical, but do due a condition during pregnancy called Twin-Twin Transfusion Syndrome one was born 2 1/2 pounds smaller than the other. Because of this, learning is sometimes harder for the smaller twin. In kindergarten, the smaller twin's teacher thought he should be held back, while the other twin was doing well. We could not hold one back and not the other so we invested in tutoring to help him catch up. It has worked out fine and both boys made the Principal's Honor Roll last quarter. I think the bigger problem is that as November babies they started school earlier than they should have. In California the birhtday cutoff date for starting school is Dec. 2. My twins preschool teachers assured us they were ready the first year they were eligilble. The school we have them in now is changing their cutoff date to September 1. I think this is better for kids. Especially when the expectations for achievement have been pushed higher and higher. If we are going to ask more and more of our children in elementary school, then preschool needs to last longer. Lyn_Marie"
04/18/2008:
"I chose to have my 2nd grader held back last year mainly because she was struggling in learning the material. It was so bad for her that homework was a chore, she would cry at home and in class because she couldn't grasp the concepts. I believe she guessed a lot b/c if she did well on a test I'd ask her to explain how she got the right answer and she couldn't. She was passing w/C's and I knew she could do better. Math was her worst subject. Her self esteem was sunk. Fast forward to this year, she's a totally different child; she went from all C's to A's and B's. Above all her confidence is through the roof! She believes she can learn and excel now. No more emotional crying in class and she tells everyone that math is her favorite subject! She's a mid-August baby and last year she was the youngest person in her class, now she's right on track age-wise w/ her classmates. I'm glad I decided to place her in the right grad now than later."
04/18/2008:
"My son is 8 and in a 3rd grade special ed class. He gets many related services but he has been struggling since kindergarten. He is not at grade level and has not mastered the skills of 3rd grade. He missed 4 months of school this year because he had surgery. We think he should be retained and his home instruction teacher feels the same. His teachers and service providers at school think he should be promoted. Our concern is, if we promote him are we setting him up to fail. The school claims he will eventually catch up. I' not convinced. He has had 3 years of special ed and he is still about a year behind academically. He has a normal IQ and he proved while he was home instructed that he learns new concepts quickly. So what do we do? We know he is capable and want to give him the chance to catch up and as another parent wrote, mature into the work load. It is so difficult to see him struggle with work he just isn't ready for yet. "
04/18/2008:
"i am going through the question now with my 9 yr old son who seems to have no interest in school what so ever although and we do make it very clear that your education the the most important th it did not used to be that way he really liked k-2 they would tell me that he needed extra help in math so i would give the extra help in that area and then when i would go for another teacher conference she would say he needed help in reading it an you will ever do was an ongoing thang but it did not seem to bother him well now he is in 3rd grade and my personal feeling because of the higher standards now that k-2 do nothingto prepare them for 3rd grade at all i have done the sap meetings with the school and remediation and th teacher even wants me to have him tested for add since she fills that is that is the problem although the teacher is very negative and will talk very negative while my son is in the room i have a question i am in north carolina do i or the school have the righ! t to hold him back "
04/18/2008:
"My 2 boys were held back in the same year but it was a turbulent year emotionally in the household as my wife and I were having problems and the boys were in different states and schools in the same year. Things have calmed down over time and I know that the problems in the house hurt them in school. They are both doing well now A's and B's. A steady home life and environment are important for children to do well in school. If they are distracted or upset at home, this will carry over to school. There was no parental choice as to whether or not they should be retained, it was decided by the school. I regret the problems at home affected them and wish they had not been forced to repeat a grade level. They are old enough now to realize what happened and they talk about wishing they were at the proper grade level. It did create a social hardship for them."
04/18/2008:
"I agree, repeating a grade has serious negative emotional and social consequences for the child. The damage once done, can never be undone. Scars on the impressionable minds of children, remain for a lifetime. Alternatives to holding back promotion to the next grade have to be explored - such as, retaking the examination, additional supervision in the next grade, parental involvement in the learning process and use of tutors outside the school. Given the many possibilities for shaping and rectifying the learning process in-course, repeating a grade should not even be the last resort in my opinion! Children are by nature inquisitive and learn if the right encouraging environment is offered. The notion of placing children into 'virtual compartments' during their school-life is a man-made thing requiring a dusting-off of any loss of information in the subsequent grade. Every attempt should be made to ensure that this loss is rectified at the earliest, as the proverbial - A Stitch in time Saves Nine!"
04/18/2008:
"As a kindergarten teacher, I am very disappointed in this article. I truly do not feel like it is good advice for parents of early childhood students. It was obviously not written by anyone who has any classroom experience. It makes me so sad that parents are so grateful for this advice! Almost as if they are grasping for a lifeline to not have to take their child’s teacher’s advice! Are these parents against retention for their own personal reasons? Do they think “What will they neighbors think?” “Is this a reflection on my gene pool?” “Why has the teacher singled my child out for retention?” So they tell the teacher “They will just bored if they are retained.” They say “It will hurt their self esteem.” “I am going to get a tutor and they will mature over the summer break.” I have been a first grade and now a kindergarten teacher for many years and have my masters in early childhood education. I have NEVER seen a child not benefit from being retained in kindergart! en. I have seen some (not most) parents refuse to listen to the teacher’s advice on retention in kindergarten and then have their child go on to first grade still sucking their thumb and wetting their pants! Then I see the same child lose their self esteem, start to feel like failures because they are getting bad grades and have difficulty socially interacting with peers because of their maturity. Now those same parents that said “They will just bored if they are retained.” and “It will hurt their self esteem.” . . . sees the light because they have heard repeatedly from other teachers year after year that their child is having difficulty. Not only that, but they see their child struggling to keep up and make friends! So they eventually decide to retain them in third or fourth grade! By this time retention is so much harder for their child. This just breaks my heart as a kindergarten teacher! If your child is in an early childhood grade give your child a GIFT o! f retention. Allow them to develop naturally at their own ra! te and d o not push them into a grade that they are not ready for. In kindergarten, some of our children are eleven months older than our late summer birthdays. Would we expect an eleven month old baby to do the same things that an infant is doing? Your child can still get into Harvard if they were retained in kindergarten! "
04/18/2008:
"Research. Statistics. One can find research to support just about any argument. I am confused by the research that says students who are retained are less likely to graduate. I want to know how students are tracked when they are socially promoted. Research shows the negative effects of retention but who tags the students who are socially promoted to see if they fare any better? It is a difficult position for a teacher to be in when the kids know they are going to be promoted no matter what. There is no leverage to motivate the kids who need that kind of motivation. In addition, the real world doesn't work that way. One isn't socially promoted at work. In fact, at work-the real world-if you don't do the work, you get fired. I think it is harmful to promote a kid to a more challenging grade. How frustrating would that be for you, if someone pushed you on to a job you weren't ready for? Social promotion/passing is even taking place in some colleges. I hope the sur! geon who operates on my arm next week wasn't socially promoted!"
04/18/2008:
"I have the benefit of hindsight. I have three children ages 26, 25 and 6. In these days of accelerated learning I am finding that my 6 year old, whose birthday is at the end of the school year, is having a hard time. I don't recall the absurd rounds of testing that occur today. Mostly I think it is a developmental issue. His siblings are both successful, one having earned a PhD, and nothing suggests the child is slow. I am seriously considering retention for 1st grade. Size wise the child is also small and I think would benefit from reinforcement of the skills needed to proceed. I don't think at this age there is much in the way of stigma attached to this. As for the teacher on this post who has blamed the parents, I have spent ample time this school year helping my son as I have the benefit of not working. It is not always a matter of the parents being involved, sometimes there is a matter of maturity or learning difficulties, neither of which can be ignored. Kud! os to parents who research and try their best to help their children. Right there you have the best a child could ask for, parents who care."
04/17/2008:
"Do you have time for your kids? If yyou have time to go on a weekend trip, a golf vacation, a party hosted by a friend or your job, you should have time for your kids education. The schools are only there to provide tools for you as the parent to help your child succed in their education. your child has to be held back you should of started working with the school last year before this school year started.These things do not just happen my child had to be moved from the school she attend and she went fronmD's & F's to A's and has struggled to get there but is keepping at it. I take my luch and go to her school to help her with class room work she is struggling on. She loves it because we go eat lunch she get to spend time with me durning her day and her friends now make sure to help her even more because when I come i bring treats for them and the class the teacher say it has helped some of the other kids So there are ways other than holding kids back! Start parenting are ! parents did it "
04/17/2008:
"I was dissapointed when I repeated the 11th grade because an idiot principal I had said so. Anyhow I caught up by finishing college in 3 years and a master in 1 year."
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